Maybe you watched The Secret 10 to 15 years ago. Maybe you read all of Abraham Hick’s books on Law of Attraction. You’ve made countless vision boards, or journaled about how your life will look in the future until your hand went numb...
You’ve been told to only think positive thoughts.
Think like you already have it.
Sticky tabs with positive mantra’s lay across your bathroom mirror.
They made it sound so easy. Be positive, act like you have it already. Get in the right vibration to attract it. YOU are creating your world. But be careful! Wanting something too bad, acting like you are in lack, won’t manifest things, so make sure you think about it once, then let it go.
And 10 years later everything you journaled, everything you thought you wanted, isn’t in front of you. You did this.
Thoughts arise, "I am bad at manifesting, or maybe I am a brilliant at it, because all my thoughts tumbled into the negative, or maybe I thought about it too much and created LACK energy!! I manifested THIS. This life isn’t what I journaled about!” Your head is spinning! What did you do wrong?
But what if I told you everything you’ve read and watched on LOA and manifesting is wrong.
Flaw #1: BLAME
The biggest flaw is that it blames something, someone, it “blames” you.
It's your fault you have cancer, it's your fault a fire burnt down your house from a forest fire, its your fault that bird shitted on your head.
So you go into a spiral of potentially more negative thoughts about yourself since you created this life you didn’t think you wanted.
If manifesting is something spiritual, something from the Divine, why would it make you feel like you are doing something wrong? And why would the Divine not want you to live through all the emotions of this human life? Forcing positive thoughts at every moment, isn’t really living.
Flaw #2 EGO MATERIALISM
This was big in the movie “The Secret” which focused on manifesting things.
If we do have a Divine power to attract and create- was it really meant for ego-driven items?
That how now translated in so many spiritual business like "how to manifest money in 20 days" - these courses act like money and things will fall from the heavens, and these teachers often leave out the fact that they have a rich family, have good credit, or anything else. There's always a feeling of "what aren't you telling us?"
YOUR SOUL IS MORE POWERFUL THAN YOUR MIND
Say you wanted to meet your future mate/get married by the time you are 30 and then have 2 kids. You journal that for 10 years, describing him/her and your wonderful life. But 30 has now passed. You Failed at manifesting. NO. I still believe we have souls, and lessons to learn through life to prep us for whats to come. I still believe that we need certain situations to prep us for the things we want. You cannot override your souls desire to go through lessons because your human conditioned mind thought 30 was the perfect age for marriage. Divine Spirit doesn’t care about what your ego thinks.
Which leads me to the next point:
DO YOU REALLY WANT THAT?
Or.. does your ego-human mind think you should have that by now to keep up with the Jones’s? Again I am pretty sure we probably don’t get what we THINK we want, because our soul has a different plan, a better plan that we cannot even fathom right now. Maybe, just maybe your soul knows your true desires that your mind has forgotten and pushed to the side. For example what if your soul moves into divine happiness when you write, but you have forgotten that hobby since you were 15 and needed to choose a career path/college in a field that would secure a good living. So you now work in finance, but your soul hasn’t forgotten your true desire and love in writing. Maybe when you are manifesting and journaling for that finance promotion, and didn’t get it, its because your soul has you on a path to be the writer that you deeply desire.
“What? My soul wants me to be a poor writer?” Thats where we need to course correct. No, your soul wants you to be a flourishing writer (or fill in the blank). Your work is now not to “manifest” but to work on the past conditioning you have that says writers (or artists, etc) are “poor”. You need to have a deep knowing that you will always be taken care of and always have the basic things you need to live as a human like money/food/shelter and to live the lifestyle you want.
GOOD THINGS WILL COME, AFTER THE LESSONS
Do you keep having circumstances on repeat? You keep dating the same creep (with a new name each time), you keep getting jobs that don’t pay you on time with maniac managers, do all your friends walk all over you? You haven’t learned the lesson yet. Once you stop, learn, work with boundaries, see warning signs and follow your intuition, you finally see the lesson. The seas will part, and you will get what your soul desires. You can’t have what you want like asking a genie in a bottle. Whats the point of being human if you could?
I KNOW WHAT I DON’T WANT
People often ask me what I want. What do I want to do with my life. What I want in general. And I always say, I have no idea. All I know is what I don’t want. “I don’t know, what I don’t know”- I love that saying, because its true. I don’t know if there is some career or way of living that just doesn’t exist YET, so how would I know to specifically manifest that? For me, knowing what I don’t want, is step #1 and maybe the only step to manifesting. And you only know what you don’t want through learning lessons and listening to your emotions.
Stop blaming yourself or thinking you are doing life “all wrong”. Instead, take a step back and look for repeating patterns that might be lessons you need to overcome. Start working with the Divine to clear any thought patterns that are no longer serving you, that maybe were even in your bloodlines from past lives. Work on clearing. Work on knowing and trusting, not even or just in the Divine, but YOU, your own soul/ higher self is here, are you listening to the signs? Or are you ignoring your intuition that can help you clear the hurdles of the lessons?